Intention Matters, Not Words!!!
As we light our homes and hearts this
Diwali, let us reflect on something deeper than rituals — the light of
understanding that guides our relationships.
Words are the threads that weave human
connection — yet they are often imperfect. They carry emotions, but sometimes
fail to express what the heart truly means. As humans, we are blessed with the
ability to look beyond words and sense the intention that shapes them. But this
ability demands patience, empathy, and reflection.
In our families, especially today, the
generation gap has become more than a difference in age — it’s a difference in
how love, care, and values are expressed. Our elders often speak their hearts —
bluntly, without filters, in ways that may not always be pleasing to our ears.
But behind those words usually lies concern, love, and a sense of
responsibility shaped by their experiences.
However, as the world changes, so do
expressions of affection. The younger generation values emotional sensitivity
and open communication, while the older generation often believes that care is
best shown through advice, guidance, and protection. When these two languages
of love collide, misunderstanding grows. We start reacting to how something is
said rather than why it was said.
Real maturity lies in pausing before
reacting — in reflecting on the intent behind words, especially when they come
from those who love us. Because understanding intention helps heal the space
that words sometimes hurt.
But there’s another side to this truth —
one equally important.
When intentions are not good, when words
come from a place of ego, manipulation, or disrespect, it is essential to draw
boundaries. Understanding intention is not about tolerating hurt; it is about
discerning truth. Setting limits is not unkind — it is self-respect. It
preserves our inner peace and prevents repeated pain.
Lord Krishna, too, taught this balance.
In the Mahabharata, he understood Draupadi’s anguish and stood by her — but
when deceit and malice ruled the hearts of others, he drew lines, stood for
dharma, and acted with firmness. Compassion and clarity must walk together;
light must be accompanied by discernment.
So this Diwali, as lamps brighten our homes, may we also illuminate our hearts — with empathy to understand others’ intentions, and wisdom to protect our own peace. Let us listen beyond words, but also recognize when silence speaks of hurt.
Because true understanding is not blind
acceptance — it is the balance between kindness and boundaries, between heart
and wisdom.
And when we master that balance, we
truly live in light. 🪔